Random Thoughts...

[Sculpt]

Originally Posted by SerialKiller

There is this man who works at the hospital. I don't know what his job is, but he doesn't work in the part I work in. Every since I got there he has been annoying. One of my friends says he came in asking if I was married or had children(never 2 both questions.) Last week he told me he keeps candy in his office & he would like for me to come & talk to him & tell him about myself. Its kind of a joke at work how much I like candy, they call me Sandi candy. He then hugged me without my permission he just kinda did it. The next day I was going down the stairs & he was coming up them. He asked me to take my mask off so he could see the rest of my face. I felt annoyed but I pulled it down because I felt like it would get me out of there faster if I did. He makes my skin crawl. I've been told he is married & has children my age. Idk if I'm reading too much into it, or if he's just trying to be nice since I'm new. Thoughts?

Seriously ask yourself why you allowed him to hug you without admonishing him for doing it. And why you took down your mask when you didn't think it was appropriate.

I'm going to assume you really have no interest in him and you need to be more assertive. You're hurting both yourself and him by not setting boundaries. May I strongly suggest you take assertiveness training, which is very effective, or at least read the excellent training book, "Your Perfect Right".

To your immediate situation: in each situation, or any future one, take him aside privately (if possible, like a stairwell) and tell him his hugging you without permission was unwelcome, inappropriate and to never do it again. Say it in a professional manner. You and he knows HR is on your side. But if you don't tell him you're not interested (and telling him it's inappropriate will do that), he'll likely continue to pursue you.

[SerialKiller]

Well Sculpt, the only reason I pulled my mask down is really because I just wanted out of there. After he hugged me he took off & it just kinda happened fast. The next day he said he's nice to everyone & people often take it the wrong way, so I didn't know if I was just misunderstanding him or not. I didn't want to overreact. Unfortunately I've just transferred hospitals not too long ago, & I've been really depressed since then. I was having problems & nobody did anything about it. HR is a joke. They just acted like they wanted the problem over with immediately. Nobody would listen to me. I'm already under enough pressure as it is trying to get settled, I didn't want to create any problems for myself being new and all.

[cheebacheeba]

Hit the man.

[Sculpt]

Originally Posted by SerialKiller

Well Sculpt, the only reason I pulled my mask down is really because I just wanted out of there. After he hugged me he took off & it just kinda happened fast. The next day he said he's nice to everyone & people often take it the wrong way, so I didn't know if I was just misunderstanding him or not. I didn't want to overreact. Unfortunately I've just transferred hospitals not too long ago, & I've been really depressed since then. I was having problems & nobody did anything about it. HR is a joke. They just acted like they wanted the problem over with immediately. Nobody would listen to me. I'm already under enough pressure as it is trying to get settled, I didn't want to create any problems for myself being new and all.

Sorry, you did ask what we thought his intentions were. You'd have to go with your gut on that. I can't tell you if he was being friendly or hitting on you. The feeling I get from you is he's hitting on you. But I certainly agree with you, you shouldn't overreact either.

[Bloof]

Sure miss Dead Bad Things.

[hammerfan]

Originally Posted by Bloof

Sure miss Dead Bad Things.

Me too. I hope he's ok. I know he was struggling after his wife's death.

[SerialKiller]

Speaking of other members I haven't seen, is Michael Myers still around??

[hammerfan]

Originally Posted by SerialKiller

Speaking of other members I haven't seen, is Michael Myers still around??

Haven't seen him in a long time

[Angra]

Originally Posted by SerialKiller

Speaking of other members I haven't seen, is Michael Myers still around??

I believe last time we heard from him was right before he went out in the woods hunting the Wendigo for the second time.

Rest in peace, fella.

[DeadbeatAtDawn]

Besides the members mentioned above, I miss anglewitch, horcrux2007, Repo'd! and Elvis_Christ but he does pop in from time to time.

Always lovely to see SerialKiller posting again.