Havent been reading this thread...

Shaz, there's no need of such a post in any sticky. People who register in here are good enough to figure out that this is the Net, and everything that happens is happening on the comp screen.

If you are still bad enough to be gullible and trust anyone on here before not satisfying yourself about their credentials, then thats YOUR fault, not that person's. That is exactly why people like Trippin and Dave flourish. Because people are EASY. "TOO" gullible.

Its strange that most people show this behaviour on here, while in real life they are very careful and too suspicious of everybody else.

Just wondering if the comp screen makes them either idiots or blind...:rolleyes:

I debated whether or not I should come in here and reply to this, and finally decided to.

I don't know if anyone remembers me too well, but at one time DJ and I were pretty close friends, or so I thought at the time. His approach to me was a bit different. For one thing, I didn't have IM, it was all through PMs. I was the first to PM him, because I had a question about a statement he made on the board. We talked everyday for months, and it was about REAL life stuff, or that's what I believed at the time. About his family, his work, etc.
By the end of our friendship, it had gotten pretty nasty; I knew he was a liar and a manipulator, I had no idea how sick he really is. I just kept catching him in lie after lie. When I finally cut off contact with him, he PMed another friend of mine trying to get information about me and asking why I wasn't speaking to him. I made the mistake of contacting him again, and being pulled into yet another sad story. Finally I washed my hands of him completely. This is pretty much the reason I stopped posting here. He seemed to have a lot of friends here at the time, so honestly I thought maybe it was just me that brought out his more charming side.....:rolleyes: And I was an adult, I was the one that allowed his manipulations to go on far too long. I was under this delusion that he was basically a decent guy, just a tad misguided. But I stopped coming here, because he made it a miserable place for me to be.

To hear this, I am sickened. I didn't realize how sick, and just all around messed up in the head this guy really is. And I am glad that I pulled myself away. It does make sense, and isn't exactly shocking I suppose, looking back. People really do need to show caution online, because you just never know. Like I said, I knew by the end of our friendship there was something off about the guy, but just being a jerk is different then.....this. I'm just glad the mods put a stop to this. :)

Talk about a blast from the past...hey Jenna...

(been wondering where you had disappeared to, the last I saw you was in the Books section)

It took a lot of courage for you to come out in the open and say it, and I commend you for it. Kudos, gurl!

Btw, I have a suggestion. Stick around, and help the rest in rebuilding this place's rep as a great destination for the avid horror movie buff.

and oh...welcome back.:)

Oh God, I'm ashamed to even admit this, but since you had the guts to tell your story, I'll tell mine. I'll try to keep it short.

When I first joined HDC, trippin' was the first person to actually show interest in me. He was friendly and made me feel special (I know, fucking corny) and I grew to trust him. We had kind of a "fling" over the phone and IM, and yes I got sent the penis pictures, but I thought that was because we were kinda having the fling thing. I even almost went down to Florida to meet him (scary). At the time, my boyfriend and I were having a very difficult time so I fell for DJ's BS hook line and sinker. Then I started catching him in lies. I cancelled my trip to Florida. Then with the help of a friend I caught him in a really BIG lie. I called him and blew up and basically screamed at him over the phone. We made up after that and remained friends. My boyfriend and I ended up working things out and are still together (approx 11 years).

I do remember once when DJ said to me that if a 14 year old wanted to "give" herself to a 30 year old man, there was nothing wrong, she knows what she is doing. (He's 36 BTW) Given that at 14, I was very strong willed and a party girl (young and stupid is how I see it now, but that's history), I thought it was a bit weird, but didn't think much of it at the time. I had no idea that he was actually preying on 14 years olds. and sending his penis pictures to everyone he could. The whole thing just makes me sick to my stomach now.

I'm still surprised at omcdave. He never said anything inappropriate to me. But apparently I didn't know his whole story either. Or maybe he just got tangled up in trippin's web like some of us others have.

Like I said before, live and learn.

Jesus...

If all of you had the guts to come clean before, we could have put a number on these guys rightaway, and not have lost so many good and knowledgeable members over them.

Ugh...how I wish members like Urge returned!


This reminds me of that final chapter in the GLC comics...where the power battery stands all torn and ripped and broken with a dim glow inside, and several Green Lanterns standing beside it without any power rings in their fingers...

If only...could...would...(deep breath)...

And I thought this was just a discussion forum where people logged on to talk about horror films and their individual tastes and choices.
All this is a really, really sad and sorry state of affairs in here.

It's not easy "coming clean" when something like this happens to you, so please don't place the blame on us. That's almost like telling a rape victim it was their fault that it happened to others after them because they didn't have "the guts to come clean before". No one likes to believe that they fell into someone else's trap. And it's very easy to think "it was only me" until the story starts coming out that it happened to others.

Thank you. :) And now that everyone knows why I was staying away, and that the problem that wasn't only my problem is now taken care of, I will be around.

Honestly, the reason I wouldn't have said anything, is I was under the mistaken belief this was a personal issue between DJ and myself. I didn't know that he was taking advantage of others or trying to, or I really would have stuck around to help push him out of here.

Mona I know how you feel. I am sick over this, when I heard about this, and read the thread......ugh, like I said, its one thing to be a jerk, this is quite another. In the beginning, I trusted him too. He was a good friend, I thought and he made me feel good about myself as well. Apparently, I am not that great of a judge of character.

Please don't feel bad...You were one of the 'unmentionables'...If you had ANY idea how long the list of female members who feel the SAME way is, it would blow your mind...Like you, they didn't want to say anything on the forum, so there wasn't much we could do because the people here demand proof (and rightly so)...There was no way that we were going to pressure people to come out with this, not just to satisfy the forum...We lost an unbelievable amount of GOOD female posters because of Trip/DJ...He 'tried out' EVERY girl that joined...Imagine how many females left the forum and decided they couldn't come back...They were ashamed, hurt, embarassed, disgusted, and as difficult as it is for an ADULT (like you, Mona, Asylum Seeker) to deal with this, just IMAGINE the effect on a 13, 14, 15, 16 year-old girl...I'm sure he doesn't realize (or give a shit) the trauma he caused SO many kids here

I'm very sorry that we had to wait until it had escalated through the roof...It isn't something that one can easily accuse someone of without anything to back it up

I'm DEFINITELY NOT blaming the victims...I (and I hope 'WE') understand completely

It's very scary to consider what he's doing (and has most likely done) in REAL LIFE...

If we could get back even HALF of the female members he has run off (and seriously...the list is a mile long), this would be a bustling forum


Now I'm going to try to 'clean up' this thread a bit, in anticipation of its closing

Thank you Rayne. Please don't delete the posts about how he victimized members, so that the other people that it happened to know it wasn't just them. I know you'll use good judgement, you always do. :)