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I just received a picture of my son that I gave up for adoption 18 years ago. Not quite sure how to feel about this. It was great seeing what he looks like, but.......I don't know, I have about a million emotions running through me right now. Had to share this with someone.

okie dokie

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Awww, that must be really tough. Do you mind me asking why you had to give him up?

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i couldn't ask i wanted to know but i couldn't ask

ya
sounds krappy
i dont get how you feel
i guess ill just let you do your thing than
um... good luck, i guess

seems pretty insane. im sure u had good reaon to give him up

dunno what that means exactly but maybe yuor gona try and meet up with him? odds are he's looking for u too and im sure u could have a relationship..

His father and I broke up a couple of weeks before I found out I was pregnant. It was a very, very nasty break-up, no chance of reconciliation. I was in the military so there really was no way for me to raise him myself. As far as having a relationship with him, I'll leave that up to him. His adoptive mother is the one who sent me the pictures. I don't want to push a relationship on him if he doesn't want it. Thanks for listening everybody (or reading, as the case may be).

Hope everything works out for you

She has always known how to get in touch with me. I told her she would always have current information about where I am. I'm the paranoid type - I always think about those stupid TV movies where the adopted child needs a bone marrow transplant or something, and they don't know where the biological family is.

I'm also pro-choice, but I just couldn't bring myself to do it. I knew giving him up was the best thing for him. He has a much better life than I could have given him.

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i've known a lot of adopted kids .. and ever single one of them wanted to meet their real parents at one point or another.
Some developed good lasting relationships too.

When they are old enough to understand you did what was best for them, it makes it easier.

dont know if that helps at all ,,, but i've seen it with my own eyes several times.

wowe. ya im pro choice too but i think this was a good idea. im prety much for abortion but i say if ur in the 3rd trimester better off giving the chid up for adoption

neway. i think urge is right im sure he'd love to get to know u. i cant think of any kid who wouldnt. perhaps when theyre younger and kinda dumber, but i think as he gets older he can realize that u werent 'throwin' him out.. know what im sayin?