Science Partner Help
 

I need some help dealing with my annoying science project partner. I mean, this kid is the most annoying and agitating kid in my entire school, and I'm stuck working with the bastard. Why me? What did I do to deserve this? (Don't answer that.) So, I was wondering if any of u guys here ever had or still have this kind of difficulty functioning with the annoying kind and lend some tips. I will leave this kid's name anonymous, just for the safety of myself and others.

Good idea, but he'd probably like it too much. *shudders*

Re: Science Partner Help
 

Ask yourself this, why is this kid like he is? There may be some very real reasons why he is annoying and agitating. Does this kid have a happy home life, does his parents make him feel valued and worthy, and do they give him the love we all need as we grow. Maybe his beheavour is a way of getting the attention he should be getting at home. Or he could be rebelling for the very opposite reason, he is being stifled at home and releases his tension at school.

Also try not to be so self centered and introspective with your "what have I done to deserve this" what makes you any better than this kid? You call him a "bastard", well how nasty is that. What gives you the right? We all have our faults and we all get on others nerves, but as we grow as we learn the social skills necessary to get along with others.

This kid probably knows how unpopular he is, and it is not easy to get along with people when you know they don't like you. He probably acts the way he does because he knows others expect that of him now, and it keeps them away from the real reason he is like he is, whatever that may be.

You have a golden opportunity to do something truly good here. Reach out to him, ignore his annoying ways. Show him you want to get to know him through all his crap. You may find a new friend, you may not help at all, but at least you will show him that not everyone is a dismissive bigot. Be stronger than others and ignore the peer pressure. Do the human thing, do the right thing. Treat this person as you would have him treat you, and even if he doesn't treat you right, you will still be the better person for it.

Please don't take the "easy" route and become one of the nasty people. The world has enough of them already.

Re: Science Partner Help
 

is your partner Friday13thfan?


but i have, but the kid is smart and hyper i didn't do a thing and got a 100%

Good advice! I never really thought of it that way. U really put me into perspective and to let me think more of others which I do daily, but not to this guy. Not to, wat I once called, a "bastard." Calling hima a bastard just makes me more of a bastard than he is. I'm the true bastard here, not him. Maybe I should save that super glue for a criminal who holds me at gunpoint (I'd chicken out) then to use it on him (which I wasn't going to do in the first place.) Maybe I should stop being so self-centered cuz some dodge50 guy I've never met told me to and put out a very damn good point. Maybe dodge50 should be the new Dr. Phil. Or maybe he deserves this.http://www.ravenimages.com/ep-ts-tt-...%20friends.jpg

Maybe one day I'll change my nasty ways, maybe not. But u be the decider on which of those two I just gave u u think is the right message. U stay classy!

it might just be me .. but i dont think he's ready to take lemons and make lemonade quite yet..

Exacto-mundo!

Re: Re: Science Partner Help
 

Phenomenal.

You should come work for me.

Okay, I gave the kid a chance today, and he acted like a total jackass for no apparent reason. He snatches things out of my hands without asking, which pisses me off to the limit. So, dodge, now wat? Give him another chance 2morrow, maybe give him a bag of trail mix to keep him busy (no trying to insult your phschology at all. Keep up the good work!) But honestly, know wat?

Sorry, I've been laid up with a slipped disc in the back, OOOooooo.

You say he snatches things out of your hand and that pisses you off. Well that would piss anyone off, but what response do you think he expects back? Does he expect you to pat him on the back and laugh? NO. He expects a negative response but that doesn't matter, what he really wants is the attention and the only way he seems to know how to get it is by being annoying. That in itself is a paradox, he wants attention, but at the same time he wants to keep people at bay. You say he acts like a jackass for no apparent reason. Again I say ask yourself why? You see this kid is not going to change because you try to be nice once. You gave him a chance you say, but was he aware you were giving him a chance? It's tough and it takes time but you have to build trust, and five minutes or one science project is not going to cut it. Keep going, being nice isn't about how often, it's about being like it all the time and that's not easy. He could still beheave the way he does and he may always be like that, but trust me though, the way you treat him now could affect him for the rest of his life, and yours. It IS worth all the hassle. In ten years time you could look back and feel like shit because of the way you acted, or you could look back knowing that you (or him) are a better person for it.

Choices, our lives are about choices. Be nice or be nasty, make others lives better or worst, be liked or be loathed. The choice is yours, but don't be decieved into thinking that your actions won't affect those around you or even you yourself, they will, in very positive or very negative ways.

Now I know we can't all be saints all the time, I can be the worlds biggest arsehole, we all can, but I truly believe if this world is ever going to be a better place more people have to start saying "I forgive you" before waiting for someone else to say "I'm sorry". This kid may never say sorry and may always be a pain. You have to understand that there are reasons he is the way he is. You may never know what they are but you can still treat him with value and respect inspite of that. It's not only paramedics who save lives, a simple "hello, how are you" with a smile, can have the same effect.

:)