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Originally Posted by TheBossInTheWall
I do. But without much effort. I imagine for women its very exhausting. From what I hear/read hetero women get loads of messages every day and its hard to sift through them. As well as vulgar sexual suggestions, straight couples wanting another women in bed, and so on.
I stopped sending messages due to lack of responses. The ones I get are from people with very little in common. Sort of blase' about it now. The women I'm interested in are very very few. I've tried a few sites that target goths and those have little activity and mostly 'weekend warriors' or metal heads. Tried geek2geek too and it is also mostly dead.
I think most dating websites need to have an option for women to only receives messages from men they themselves have categorized as possibilities while they're looking at profiles.
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Where are you located? Coffee Meets Bagel attempts to do that (you can only message each other if you "like" each other) but its model - a "Bagel a day" (I kid you not) makes it even more sloooooooooooooow.
Not to return to the "Simple Curiosity Pole," but how do you identify? I've historically checked off "Bi Female" but it seems to raise more questions than anything else so I've recently updated to "heteroflexible" (ugh - All because I just don't identify as straight - This is going to sound wishy washy but I had the labeling honestly).
I've found that when I first join sites, I get a flurry of messages (mostly poorly spelled with no grammar or just a "Hi how r u?" as opposed to filthy stuff - I almost prefer the filthy stuff sometimes because it's typically more inventive than "Hi i saw ur profile u seem neet wuts ur name do u have kik?") but tend to taper off (except Plenty of Fish which really just seems to hit the bottom of the barrel - Apologies in advance to my friends who met on there - oops - heh heh).
I've had the most luck with Tinder and OK Cupid. The former, well, I had to
take care of some things (heh) and with the latter I find more of the quirky, nerdy guys that I tend to lean to. I have a subscription to Match, which I should cancel because I think the demographic is more for wholesome, vanilla, Christian folks looking to get married and have kids. Not me, nope.
Have you tried Reddit? It's been recommended to me because you get kinda clever weirdos... My issue though is that Yes I want a nerdy guy (tattoos and hipster glasses yes yes yes yes please) but they absolutely have to have their shit together, which surprisingly is harder to find than one would hope.
I had a pretty promising first and second date with a bloke I met last week - Seems nice and I'm desperately trying NOT to become a STAGE 5 CLINGER - Not that easy. I can be fairly intense when I meet someone, romantically or otherwise, and I'm starting to realize that that's not necessarily the best approach...
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Originally Posted by hammerfan
Can't help you with that. Never done it. Not interested in dating anymore. Haven't had a date since 2001.
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Damn, girl. Well I don't blame you. It's exhausting. Let's go drink wine and play with our cats.