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Originally posted by monalisa
Boy, tough call. If you got involved personally, you'll run the risk of just ending up getting back together and for whatever sick reason, she'll probably leave you again for him. Just my prediction.
Do you know her family and/or friends? Are they trustworthy? If yes to both questions, you might want to talk to them about it and make sure they know about it. Unfortunatly, she probably isn't really going to listen to anybody, we as humans are stubborm by nature (I think) and have to learn our own lessons. But considering the danger she seems to be in, I think a talk with the people you know care about her, might not be a bad thing. And that all depends on your rapport with those people. Not an easy situation.
Just watch out for yourself first, no matter how difficult that may be. Keep us in the loop, we're weird but we're not stupid (don't mean to generalize, but I think most people would agreed with that).
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Yeah, I know that it would be a bad idea to contact her for so many reasons in my head...But we nice guys tend to be cursed with a tendency to want to play hero and come to the rescue.
Yeah, I know...fairly pathetic, but there it is.
I guess it would probably be better to get someone else to help her and keep my distance, but she seems to have alienated pretty much all the mutal friends we shared and now hangs mostly with the guy who beats her. As for her family, I hear they've pretty much written her off. I'm considering calling her mom and seeing if she knows what kind shit her daughter's in and just how deep. Dunno what good it'll do, but at least its something.
Anyways, thanks for letting me vent, guys, and thanks for the advice. I know its not quite on topic, so let me get on topic...
My Fantasy Woman
She should be honest, have a sense of humor, be willing to try new things, prefers the night over the day, doesn't always have to 'get me' but at least be willing to try, willing to say what she wants and doesn't feel the need to play games or expect me to read her mind, believes in compromise, respects things I feel strongly about even if she disagrees, doesn't get off on fighting with me, not emotionally manipulative, actually believes in and practice smonogamy, intelligent, sharp wit, compassionate, caring, loving and be willing to give as much to make a relationship work as me.
Oh yeah, knowing how to cook in the kitchen and how to work it in the bedroom (or where ever!) would be a huge bonus... :D