[ShankS]

Originally Posted by heebiejeebies

It takes a lot to throw me for a loop, but something a "friend" of mine has done really takes the cake as far as I'm concerned. You read and let me know if I'm overreacting.

A friend of mine from high school/college lives out of state. I don't get to see her very often, but I make a point of sending her birthday cards, Christmas cards, e-mails, etc. For the first few years of her son's life I even sent him birthday cards. She, however, occasionally (and I use that word loosely) remembers me in turn.

About two months ago I got an e-mail from her out of the blue. It started out all friendly with her updating me on her job, her husband's school year (he and I are both teachers), and her son. I was really impressed until she launched into this sales pitch for a product she's decided to start selling in her spare time. Now, I really wouldn't have minded if some of my other friends had pulled this - they at least get in touch with me on a semi-regular basis - but I thought this was rude. I responded as politely as I could because I'm not one for confrontation. I thought that would be the end of it, but it gets better.

She came home over the holidays. Another e-mail letting me know that her mom is throwing a party so she can sell this stuff while she's home, and I'm invited. She gives me all the details: time, place, etc. She even gives me her cell phone number so I can call to let her know if I can come. As an afterthought she adds that if I can't make the party I can come by and see her before she leaves; she "really" wants to get together.

Question: Am I being overly picky? Should I say something to her and let her know I feel kind of used? (Quite honestly I don't think it would make a difference.) Has anything like this happened to you, and what did you do about it?

I think I feel better just getting it off my chest. Thanks.

You've already partly done what I'd advise you to do, and thats respond politely letting her know you're not interested. The same goes for the party thing. Tell her you're otherwise engaged.