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[X¤MurderDoll¤X]

sounds like you're thinking too hard about the stuff that you're supposed to ignore because you're too busy fucking, eating and sleeping.

cut down on smoking weed, go out more, get drunk and have some fun, start dating again. don't be so serious, it's only life.

start showing people the same amount of respect that they show you. :)

[novakru]

Sometimes fucking is a great way to get rid of demons.
I mean really, if you have to wait till August to get some meds and therapy...I say strap yourself down with your girl and go at it.
I'm not trying to be a smartass either.
It's a heckava lot better than smokin and drinkin and fightin.

[GorePhobia]

John,

You have been a good guy and have called my radio show numerous times and I feel that you are a good person to talk to and be around. I understand what you are going through because deep down right now I am also depressed because of my back problems, not having money or insurance and all that.

You know that I am here for ya bro to talk to you. I will always be here for anyone on any forum I post on because to me you are all apart of my family. Just know that you do have people that will listen and will try and help you get through what you are dealing with.

[ferretchucker]

I really wish I could help, and I think it was a pretty brave move talking about it, but to tell the truth, I'm too young. I don't have experience in this kind of thing. I'm sorry.

[urgeok2]

Originally Posted by novakru

Sometimes fucking is a great way to get rid of demons.
.

unless you're actually fucking a demon.



i dont know how to give advice for this kind of thing.
i love life - i love being happy - i try to do as much stuff as i enjoy every day.
i avoid those who infringe on my enjoyment.

life's too short enough as it is to waste it being unhappy. find something you like to do - and do it.
find someone who you ike to hang around (hopefully the feeling is mutual) and hang around them.

if you think there is a problem - then there probably is .. identify it - and fix it.
if you need help to do so - get it.

every second wasted being miserable is a crime - a waste ..

if no one listens to you - maybe it's the way you're saying it ..just a thought.

[Psycom5k]

I've been sitting here reading what you've all said and thinking about it, and you are right. Well except for the fucking comment, because I'm not the kind of guy to do that. If I have sex with anybody its only with people that I'm in a relationship with. Don't get me wrong, I love sex, I just don't like the idea of going out and having sex with somebody I barely know. Its just the way I was brought up I guess, and I guess I have kind of a romantic veiw on it. That and I was always the person that would treat people the way I want to be treated. Its always been like that for me, I may get stepped on, and treated like garbage, and take it, but thats me. I've always been the one to show everybody respect, whether it be a homeless man, or a rich man. The ones I don't do that for are the ones that treat me wrong. I don't show them respect, I just stay away from them. I don't like fighting, and I try to avoid it. I had a bad experience with it when I was younger and since then I've tried my hardest not to get into a fight. I hurt somebody real bad one time and I don't want to do it again.

Again everybody thank you for your advice and support, it means alot to me.

Ferretchucker, don't worry about it, as you said before, you are young. Your at the age where you get most of your advice that turns you into the adult that you are going to become. What you can do though, is remember that when you get older, and you get the chance to help people out with your advice, do it. It's the greatest thing in the world to be able to help people like that.

I'm feeling alot better right now from all your guys' support and the fact that I found a couple of old cd's I had for when I felt depressed. Has a bunch of songs that always made me feel better.

[ChronoGrl]

Man, I completely understand and empathize with what you're going through and how you're feeling. Pretty much throughout my entire life I've felt alienated from everyone - Even my family and my close friends. I can hear in your words what I used to say to myself: "They don't care about me. They don't respect me. They don't understand me. They don't WANT to understand me. And they can't even bother listening to me."

But you have to remind yourself - It's not about them.

I've either ruined or nearly ruined scores of relationships because of this thought process. And it's NOT easy to talk about with people. Try asking your loved ones, "Do you really care about me?" and the answer is usually an incredulous, confused, and frustrated, "Yes." (Think about it: From their perspective, of course they care about you, but not everyone understands or has dealt with depression firsthand)

The issue is how you feel about you (as ridiculously cliched as that sounds). You're going down an increasingly self-distructive path - That's all those thoughts are; self-destructive and ultimately not helpful. It's not easy, but you need to derail yourself. When you feel yourself going down that path, think of something else (though believe me - it's NOT easy and I am not going to kid myself or you and pretend that it IS). When you feel anxious and consumed by these self-destructive and alienating thoughts, you need to derail them. Quote as much of a movie as you can. Say the alphabet backwards; anything to derail and distract you from the virtiginous thought process that is ultimately driving you insane.

I definitely agree that professional help could be of assistance. Personally, the meds that I am on for depression and anxiety help me a lot... But that's not necessarily the answer for everyone. I suggest looking for EMDR therapists; It's a kind of therapy that focuses specifically on assisting the patient to derail themselves when their anxieties come (it helps specifically with PTSD patients - Not that I consider myself a Dr., but your thought path echoes some typical PTSD anxieties... Could be that there's something that you've needed to deal with for some time... And now's the time).

But in the short term, I've found that the best self-therapy that I have ever done for myself is change my routine. As it's been metioned before, it sounds trite, but it's not. Obviously, right now, what you're doing is not working. So you need to identify the parts in your life that need to change. Maybe you need a professional in your life. Maybe you need to change your daily schedule. Maybe you need to eat more cereal - Could be a number of things, either great or small. I find that the first and easiest things to change are cosmetic - Exercising and eating better... Going out more on long walks around the neighborhood. The next step is mental conditioning - How to derail these thoughts that are bringing you down... It's not easy, but you need to be able to recognize the pattern - You know where it starts (probably be a thought: "They dont' care about me). Well, don't indulge it. Don't follow it with anger; instead think about something entirely different - Build a house in your mind. Pick something methodical (my boyfriend thins of basketball stats when he feels an anxiety attack coming on) and distract yourself.

And, when all else fails - Control your breathing... Long breath in... Long breath out... Yoga has done WONDERS for me (hey - don't knock it 'til you try it!)

I know it sounds crazy, trite, and trivial... But it's worth a try.

And if I've pried too much I'm sorry - It just hurts me hearing someone having the same kind of pain that I know all too well.

And, Psycom, don't sweat it - You're not shit. You're a good kid who's going through a rough patch. You're smart, you're funny, clever... And obviously we all took the time to read through your post, so you know at least WE care... Though I'm not sure how much consolation that is. ;)

Take it easy, and I honestly suggest cutting back on the weed. I know that me, personally, I have long-lasting anxiety attacks when I over-indulge... But then again, I never said that I could handle the stuff. :p

PM me if you want any more advice from Dr. Chrono.

[Freak]

I know how you feel man.I'm there right now myself.the best advice I can give you is screw what everybody else thinks about you.I used to think that people liking me was the most important thing in the world.But you really need to focus on liking yourself more.As long as you can be happy with yourself and be happy being you then it doesn't matter if other people do.If somebody doesn't like you for you then that person isnt worth having in your life any way.


Also another little piece of advice for you:People are bastard coated bastards with bastard filling.

[stubbornforgey]

All I can really add to this is ..
If you are happy with you ..then thats all that matters, they are the ones who have to adjust to your wants , needs and desires.Don't change for anybody but yourself and only then if you feel that you , yourself need an attitude adjustment.
Life is too short for you to worry about what others think and stop apologising.Do you really mean it anyway?
As for arguing..get your point across and just get the hell out of there.
Its not that nobody likes you etc..its probably because nobody understands you.
Chin up and keep smiling :D

[newb]

Pyscom....we like you just fine here.......lighten up dude and just enjoy the ride of LIFE. Its all we got and the older you get you will realize that there is just some shit we have no control over......other stuff you DO have control over.....deal with that and everything will fall into place.