Date much?

[stygianwitch]

Originally Posted by urgeok

never dated.

i always got to know people informally first.

the idea of a formal date terrifies me - the thought of being trapped with someone for more than 30 minutes who will probably turn out to be a nightmare.

i'm extremely fussy - before i was married (and this includes my wife) i always got to know the person as a good friend before i was willing to spend 'alone time' with them.

i know some people look at it as an exciting way to get to know new people but i dont .. it's like going to a job interview where you know that in 99% of the case - you probablywouldnt even want to work for that company.

and yes, i was like this BEFORE i got old.

i'm like this too, the thought of a blind date *shudders*

i have to know that i like someone and can get on with them first

[urgeok]

Originally Posted by stygianwitch

i'm like this too, the thought of a blind date *shudders*

i have to know that i like someone and can get on with them first

not just a blind date -
even if i sort of know the person i'm not interested.
I like to get to know someone by talking a lot - but informally... like hanging out in a group, etc ....i never wanted to feel trapped or forced.

by casual observation i was always able to eliminate a lot of people from the equation right off the bat.

this sounds absurd coming from someone who looks like a can of crushed dew worms but as odd as it is - i always had attractive girlfriends ..
no accounting for taste on their part..

[stygianwitch]

Originally Posted by urgeok

I like to get to know someone by talking a lot - but informally... like hanging out in a group, etc ....

i'm not good in large groups, i do prefer small gatherings, i tend to be a listener rather than a talker, until i get to know someone well enough to start chatting

[Miss Olivia]

LOL you mean a classic California marriage.:p

[crabapple]

That DOES sound like a pretty sound plan...a good plan...

[Roderick Usher]

Jump in and have fun. You've just come out of a relationship and you deserve to blow off some steam. Take a date or two, see how it feels.

If it sucks pull back, but at least give yourself a chance. The unknown is scary, sure, but it can also be a blast.

I'm sure you have plenty of admirers, you're a knockout. In addition to fielding a few invitations, you should ask someone out. A strong, confident, sexy woman asking a man out...that's hot.

Good luck! I'm rooting for you:D

[Nikkif8]

Personally I wouldn't date a 19 year old at my age and I am only 25. My spouse is 24 and that was pushing it lol JK. But when we met, we met out with a group and just started hanging out, basically everyday, but we would go out and do stuff in fun pubs and whatnot so it wasn't like all quiet at a fancy restaurant or anything. I dk we were just really comfortable from day one. I would only go out with someone you feel that way with instantly. Maybe I am pushing it a bit but you knwo what I mean? I definately agree that you shoudl get out and have some fun for sure, just from my experience younger guys=trouble and mostly just want sex.

[Miss Olivia]

Originally Posted by Roderick Usher

Jump in and have fun. You've just come out of a relationship and you deserve to blow off some steam. Take a date or two, see how it feels.

If it sucks pull back, but at least give yourself a chance. The unknown is scary, sure, but it can also be a blast.

I'm sure you have plenty of admirers, you're a knockout. In addition to fielding a few invitations, you should ask someone out. A strong, confident, sexy woman asking a man out...that's hot.

Good luck! I'm rooting for you:D

You're a great ol Poe, Rod.:p
I'm going to try really hard to lighten up about this whole situation. I mean when you really think about it, there are much worse things to endure in life. Cancer.
Loss of limb.
Paris Hilton.
I should just put all the deeper questions on the back burner and have a good fucking time.
Bring on the Jello shots. I'm ready.:p

[novakru]

Go out with the babies-use them for practice!
And hot sex once in awhile with a young man can add benefits for you AND them-make sure you teach them well my friend...teach them WELL:)


Sorry to hear about your husband, that must be heartbreaking.
If you ever need someone to try a half-assed attempt to cheer you up-I'm around here sometimes:D
Take Care of your heart sweetie!

[Miss Olivia]

Originally Posted by novakru

Go out with the babies-use them for practice!
And hot sex once in awhile with a young man can add benefits for you AND them-make sure you teach them well my friend...teach them WELL:)


Sorry to hear about your husband, that must be heartbreaking.
If you ever need someone to try a half-assed attempt to cheer you up-I'm around here sometimes:D
Take Care of your heart sweetie!

LMFAO so dating younger men could almost be a public service.....
You rock. Thanks.:cool: