Worrying Censorship Developments At Hdc

[monalisa]

Originally Posted by bloodrayne

I'm sorry that happened to you...I hope that you can get past it and not think about it, although I know that isn't easy

You're right...It does help to get it out...It's good to let everyone know that they weren't the only ones, so they won't think that it was somehow their fault, or because of something they did or said

I was constantly trying to get BloodyDesire to stop (she was 13 when she FIRST came here)...I warned her of the dangers...She persisted, until she left...Lots of people left after he 'messed' with them...I'm glad that those of you who stayed, decided to stay, even though it was very difficult

You guys have a lot of guts to come out and share these stories...And you're also helping other people by doing so...Not only are you helping victims, but you're also making it more difficult for the criminals to get away with this...They depend on SECRECY in order to do what they're doing...When all of their secrets are out in the open, they can't really continue to do this

I am saying this in the hope of shining a little humor and wisdom on this subject. DJ didn't mess with me much anymore after he met my "bitchy" side when I totally blew up at him on the phone. That was why we could remain friends, and why I picked on him on the forum (kind of as a reminder). So, the point is, don't be afraid to stand up to pervs like him online. And talking about it definately helps too. Get it out. It helps you and like Rayne said, it also makes it more difficult for them to get away with it if everyone knows about it.

[swiss tony]

Originally Posted by monalisa

I am saying this in the hope of shining a little humor and wisdom on this subject. DJ didn't mess with me much anymore after he met my "bitchy" side when I totally blew up at him on the phone.

it seems from this that some of you lot are getting friendly in a phone call, email and messenger type of way. is this standard? if so, no wonder you are getting exposed to freaks. i think, BR, that you should emphasize the dangers of this. i mean, i like you guys but we all have our own real life friends.

[monalisa]

Originally Posted by swiss tony

it seems from this that some of you lot are getting friendly in a phone call, email and messenger type of way. is this standard? if so, no wonder you are getting exposed to freaks. i think, BR, that you should emphasize the dangers of this. i mean, i like you guys but we all have our own real life friends.

There is nothing wrong with making friends over the Internet, and yes, sometimes we talk with people we like on PM, IM, phone, email.... Please don't make this into a "it's our own fault for being friends with whoever". The perv is the guilty one, not the people who tried to be his friend. Hopefully we all can come away from this wiser, but not hateful.

[jenna26]

I understand this point of view; but I have to say, I have been hurt far worse by some of my "real life" friends then the ones I have made online. It isn't often you can truly know someone. There is danger no matter how you meet someone. And the internet is another way of meeting people. I have made several really good friends online; good decent people. I met my husband online. You HAVE to be cautious, and understand that obviously there is risk, greater risk because it is easier to be fake when you are hiding behind a computer. You have to know not everyone has good intentions. Just be careful people, understand the risks you are taking, and if you are not an adult....DON'T take the risk. It isn't worth it.

[MoonLit Meadow]

Originally Posted by monalisa

There is nothing wrong with making friends over the Internet, and yes, sometimes we talk with people we like on PM, IM, phone, email.... Please don't make this into a "it's our own fault for being friends with whoever". The perv is the guilty one, not the people who tried to be his friend. Hopefully we all can come away from this wiser, but not hateful.

I have to agree. I think you take as many precautions as you can...but sometimes somebody you think is a friend takes advantage of that trust and/or kindness. That doesn't mean everyone you met on the 'net is a freak...in fact, I'd venture to say most of us are "normal" (relatively speaking;) )...we only hear about the weirdos...that's what makes news;) I have plenty of great friends in "real life", but have also met some wonderful people on the internet (most from this site) who are as important to me as those I see every day. I don't think there's anything wrong in carrying on friendships via phone, e-mail, etc...just take precautions, and trust your instincts...if something feels a little off...it probably is =P

[swiss tony]

all i'm saying is, be really careful. i'm not blaming anyone other than the perpetrators of perv. so don't go down the path of witch hunting. we are all responsible for our own security. let this be a lession to all.

[MoonLit Meadow]

Originally Posted by jenna26

I understand this point of view; but I have to say, I have been hurt far worse by some of my "real life" friends then the ones I have made online. It isn't often you can truly know someone. There is danger no matter how you meet someone. And the internet is another way of meeting people. I have made several really good friends online; good decent people. I met my husband online. You HAVE to be cautious, and understand that obviously there is risk, greater risk because it is easier to be fake when you are hiding behind a computer. You have to know not everyone has good intentions. Just be careful people, understand the risks you are taking, and if you are not an adult....DON'T take the risk. It isn't worth it.

We must've posted at the same time, cause I totally missed this! =P Yeah, definately agree here as well...oh, and Jen's a perfect example of somebody I met on the net that's not a freak...okay, except for that whole thing with locking people in her basement...but again, I over look that b/c everyone has their fetishes. BWAH! But seriously, just as good a chance somebody you know will hurt you as somebody you meet over the internet. When the red flags go up, in any situation...don't ignore them.

[swiss tony]

i think on the net you should have tighter security. i mean, this is the first place i've met someone who flashes underage girls. yeah, there's some great people but, the anonymity of the net brings out the perv in people. just be vigilant!

[MoonLit Meadow]

Originally Posted by swiss tony

i think on the net you should have tighter security. i mean, this is the first place i've met someone who flashes underage girls. yeah, there's some great people but, the anonymity of the net brings out the perv in people. just be vigilant!

Oh yeah, I definately agree that people are much more...umm...BOLD behind the computer ;) I understand what you're saying though. Agreed. However, I don't think flashers typically announce that they flash underage girls...I don't think they walk around admitting. They just kinda get caught ;) Not sure it's something you wanna add to a resume or anything ;)

[jenna26]

Originally Posted by MoonLit Meadow

We must've posted at the same time, cause I totally missed this! =P Yeah, definately agree here as well...oh, and Jen's a perfect example of somebody I met on the net that's not a freak...okay, except for that whole thing with locking people in her basement...but again, I over look that b/c everyone has their fetishes. BWAH! But seriously, just as good a chance somebody you know will hurt you as somebody you meet over the internet. When the red flags go up, in any situation...don't ignore them.

Excuse me, do I know you? ;)

Seriously, yes, here is one of the wonderful people I have met online. A good friend, a good person. And she wouldn't be in my life if not for this blasted machine. You just have to know how to watch out for yourself, take care of yourself, and know the danger. I think many people, kids and adults, don't really think, they are far too trusting. They know what is in their heart, and seem to automatically believe that is how most people are. And that just isn't true. As long as you are aware, cautious, (yes, please watch for those red flags) you should be okay. :)