Regret...

[Phalanx]

Just wondering what are some actions taken by others that they've regretted in hindsight? Yknow, not so much "went snowboarding, busted my leg" kinda thing, more like the kind of things you've done/said that you've thought back and not liked about yourself?

I'll start with a few...

Age 13 - Throwing rocks at towards a birds nest with a friend, just to make the bord come out on defense mode. one of them clipped the bird, which then flew into a wall and broke its neck. (See, I haven't always been on the animals side) Unintentional, but it's something that stayed with me.

Age 15. When my little brother was just past 4, sometimes I would get stuck with babysitting...I guess this was just a selfish teenager kinda thing to do, but most of the time I'd just let him play with his toys, and watch whatever I wanted, even when there were videos specifically for him there. If he started "bugging me" (which was my way of thinking back then) by asking me to put his shows on, or play a game with him, I told him to leave me alone...one time he was being pretty persistant, and I really don't know why or how I came up with this, but I told him that my mother, sister and I had decided to sell him to another family. I told him to go get his favourite things packed in a bag...and he actually did it, crying all the way. I kept at it, and told him "dont worry, i'll make sure you get a family that lets you watch cartoons and play games" he was just about sobbing uncontrollably then, and through his tears he said "no, but I love you" and right then and there I felt like the biggest cunt ever, and realised that the only reason this kid was always bugging me was just because he wanted to spend time with me. I just hugged him and told him I was being stupid, told him not to worry, it would never happen", then watched his kiddy videos for the rest of the day....So yeah, pretty much from that point onwards things changed between us, and I think I started acting like a brother should...I've since realised (he's 14 now) that he's pretty much the closest relative I've ever had. Funny thing, I actually apologised to him for being such an ass, a few years back, all he said was that I'd made up for it by being his friend.
Still, when I think back, I really don't know what came over me.


There's more...but these are the main two I reflect on when I think about the kind of person I want to be, and the kind that I don't...anyways, that's my sharing...so...any of you do something outrightly mean/nasty that you've regretted later on?

[Miss Olivia]

I have a temper, and I fly off the handle pretty quick. There have been many times when I've kicked myself for being nasty to someone when the best thing to do would be to ignore it.

Two weeks ago a drunk woman was causing a ruckus in front of my house for about four hours off and on....my friend Jed told her to go home, and she told him to fuck off and flashed her nasty saggy boobs at him, and I took off down the stairs but she was gone.
She came back an hour later (it was midnight by now) and started raising hell at my neighbors again and this time I went downstairs and told her to go the hell home. Well, she started talking shit to me, and then got in my face and called me Blondie.
I proceeded to punch her in the face. Hard. She didn't get one lick in.
The police were called, she got in trouble and I didn't. But all that drama bullshit could have been avoided if I'd just stayed in my apartment and ignored it, or called the police myself.
Now the entire neighborhood is calling me either Rocky or Blondie.
I just wanted to go to sleep.
It was really immature of me.

[stubbornforgey]

nups..em with you on this..
dunno why drunk ppl think they can get away with shit like this aye.

I don't think i have any regrets for anything i have ever done.
Basically...many of it was a re-action to an action towards myself/freinds or family.


oooooooooh c'pet maybe this one thig.
'Lowers her head in shame'

My sister was sick ..but none of us knew just how sick she really was.
I was moving out of the family home n had returned to pick up the last of my stuff as well as my boarder.
Ok my boarder hadn't helped me through out the whole process ..so i was pretty annoyed ..and i yelled at her..plus she had promised to look after our new place while i spent one last night at the family home.
My boarder had changed her mind..so i was pretty pissed off.
As i was yelling at her ..my sister butts in to defend the boarder.
I retaliate by telling my baby sis to 'get totally fucked'..called her a fat fucker and a few other choice names.
Delivered the last load of furniture..
went home ..asked how 'the fat fuck' was....mum went in to check n my sister was dead.

[Miss Olivia]

Holy hell, that's awful.
I can't even begin to imagine how awful.:(

[alkytrio666]

My freshman year a buddy and I went around our school cafeteria "begging" for change with a cup. We made some good money that way. We'd always try to be funny, though, so I went to a table saying "My mom has cancer, put in some change?" One of the kids looked at me very sadly, got up, and walked away.

Turns out his mom had recently died of cancer.

I've never felt so awful in my life. It was a lesson for me on being more sensitive to things that shouldn't be made into jokes.

[urgeok]

when i was 7 or 8 i really liked this gir - as a friend in my class ..

i was teasing her and said something like "oh yeah, your mother is a witch' (cant remember why but it wasnt malicious - just goofing around)

someone gasped and told me her mother just died.

i dont think i've felt that bad since - i was a pretty sensitive little kid.


one other time i was showing off for some kid (about the same age as above) and i twirled one of my gerbils around by its tail.
its tail ripped off and it flew across the room. I was mortified .. bawled for hours and never mistreated an animal - or showed off again in my life.

other than those 2 life changing experiences - i cant say i have any regrets at all.


strike that ..
now - as a parent .. i regret every time i have to scold my child ..

it's neccessary but i always feel like shit after.

[stubbornforgey]

Originally posted by Miss Olivia
Holy hell, that's awful.
I can't even begin to imagine how awful.:(

yeah ..this has haunted me since then..
(94 this happened)
My sis was complaining of having bad tummy cramps..
all the doctors we took her too were adamant it was cos of her period problems.
Anyways..it was found she had appendicts
n the told us it was best to leave it as it wasn't neccasarty to take out..it wasnt that bad..
That night..it burst ..by the time my mum found her was too late..

[Miss Olivia]

I would be so angry....losing a loved one because of an ignorant doctor.
I'm very sorry for your loss.
:(

[orangestar]

One of my best friends is a boy. We have a complicated, tumultuous relationship. We fight all the time, but the friendship that we've formed is ridiculously strong. His dad had been terminally ill since around the time we met (2 years ago). About a month ago, we got in a fight and I kept sending him really rude, hurtful messages on voicemail, texts, facebook, AIM...anyway I could piss him off. He wasn't replying which was just egging me on, until finally he called and said his dad had just died.

Since then, I have not only changed the way I act around him, I've started to think before I fight with anyone.

Most of the stuff on this thread is just human nature. We don't think before we act.

[The STE]

no regrets